Trip down fro lane.

Heeeeeello beautiful people on this windy day, when hair can really become a problem... how are you working it today to keep the fly aways at bay? Funky hat or beret? Clean tight bun? Or the oh so lovely Nandi Mgoma head wrap or turban. Either way I hope your managing it this August weather.

Today I'm taking you'll down my journey of turning from that easy to manage relaxed hair to that stubborn fro.

It hasn't been easy I have to say, but I was tired.... relaxer burns your scalp, then they wash your hair with hot water, then its that dreaded hair dryer that keeps burning your ear and you leave the salon not talking to the poor hairdresser who was just trying to help you achieve that extremely slick look. Eish kunzima!

So one day when it was time for me to relax my hair, I didnt like the feeling of fear I got in my chest. So I said to my dad... Tata please just cut it all off, my dad and my brother were more than willing... and they got to chopping....

(Check out my cute butterfly earrings)

Whooo I had saved myself from the hair dryer but what now???? Now wearing a dress looked wierd... I felt like a confused little boy. You can tell people are looking at you differently, as if you're about to take off your bra and scream liberty for all woman!!! *SMH*

Then there's question... that pierces through your soul.... "Girl why did you cut your hair?" and they look at you as if you forgot to put on pants this morning. The problem with this question is that it indirectly suggests that you looked better with your hair and now well... ai asazi.

But you get used to it and you start to own it and people start getting used to you as well and they start saying "no but it suits you hey".

So its a new day... you start working with the new look, you start wearing beads, and Africa T-shirts because short hair makes you conscious right?Lol.

But I have to say the short hair has definitely opened me up to a new range of people, you don't get the average guy stepping up to you but only the guys who really know they can hold a smart conversation have the guts to say hello, its definitely breath of fresh air.

As I became more comfortable in my new hair and knew how to make myself look and feel as good as I did with long hair. NB principle... never be caught without earrings and eyeliner!!!

 (Make up inspired by King Tha(Thandisa Mzwai))



I have to say it does feel much better when that hair has grown a centimeter or two, there's more to work with and I do feel alot less like a little boy shame. Hair is very important its our crowning glory just like our curvy bodies, big hair just fits right into that whole deal nje. Now I can comfortably wear a dress and not feel out of place.

Having the fro now has made me more true to myself and see myself in so much more ways, love myself much more than I did with the slick hair, I'm more conscious of what I wear, how I carry myself and I'm definitely more open to new things in life, all because of that one big chop.

An afro though is very hard to handle!!!! (I don't think that's even enough exclamation marks).
When its was short if was just get up and go... now I need to.... yes you guessed it COMB! *Death*

Uhm ya... I opted not to comb.



I still love slick hair, so every now every now and then get braids to make the mornings alil easier.

Well its almost a year now since that dreaded chop and I've found comfort in my afro...

I Love It!

Well that's it, enjoy the rest of this windy day guys.

PS... Bongi please don't relax your beautiful fro.

Be more like butterflies (Fun facts about butterflies to incorporate into your own life).

Hi everybody, I looooove butterflies which by now I'm sure you've guessed.

So here I took to glitter, blush, eyeliner and daring red lipstick to draw this beautiful butterfly on my face. Step by step I'll show you how I did it and share my thoughts on why we should be more like butterflies.

1. Butterfly wings are transparent.

A butterfly wing is actually formed by layers of chitin, the protein that makes up an insect's exoskeleton. These layers are so thin you can see right through them.

Be more transparent in your life, let people into your life, live more, love more, laugh more.

You are special, interesting and unique with your traits that make you who you are, so show the world who you really are and they will love you for who you are, if they don't they were never meant to be there in the first place.  

2. A newly emerged butterfly can't fly.

Inside the chrysalis, a developing butterfly waits to emerge with its wings collapsed around its body. When it finally breaks free of the pupal case, it greets the world with tiny, shriveled wings.

Patience Patience Patience! Not everything will work out all at one go, but if you truly believe in something be prepared to make some hard sacrifices. Crawl; walk; run and then fly, I promise it will mean so much more at the end and you will appreciate it more.

3. Butterflies employ all kinds of tricks to keep from being eaten.
Butterflies rank pretty low on the food chain, with lots of hungry predators happy to make a meal of them. Some butterflies fold their wings to blend in to the background, using camouflage to render themselves all but invisible to predators.

 Although they may be hundreds of people that may love and support you, some people will let you down and sometimes it isn't even their intention.  So always have a back up plan, and don't blame other people for not being on the same page as you. Work on you own greatness, choose your friends wisely, let them help but never expect them to put themselves on hold for you rather ensure you have your own tricks up you sleeve to keep you afloat.

4. Butterflies drink from mud puddles.
A butterfly cannot live on sugar alone; it needs minerals, too. To supplement its diet of nectar, a butterfly will occasionally sip from mud puddles, which are rich in minerals and salts.

Drink water guys!!! Its good for you... even if it's from a mud puddle! Lol. But don't take yourself too seriously jump onto a puddle on a rainy day, jump onto a leave just to hear and feel that crunch sound, smile at kids, appreciate a butterfly passing by.

5. Butterflies live just 2-4 weeks, usually.
Once it emerges from its chrysalis as an adult, a butterfly has just a few short weeks to live. During that time, it focuses all its energy on two tasks – eating and mating

Finally; Life is short, cherish it, make the people you love feel appreaciated. Chase after your dreams. Find your passion, and focus on trying to fulfill only that and happiness will follow.

Well this has been fun, I hope it will reach those who need it.

Love you lots.

Butterfly facts from http://insects.about.com/od/butterfliesmoths/a/10-facts-butterflies.htm

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